Staying Too Long At The Party Unloced
Have you ever been at a party or a kickback and you slowly start to realize that almost everybody is gone and you are the only one still on the dance floor? Goodbyes were said over an hour ago and hugs goodnight were already dispensed, but you partied on. What was once a crowded place full of activity and energy has now become an almost desolate space with scattered garbage and tired bodies. Most of the people you came with are either gone or sitting down wondering when you are going to sit down too. Moments like these are how you know you may have stayed too long at the party. It was fun, but now it is time to go.
Not unlike fun parties, we can also stay too long in relationships. Sometimes we stay and try to make it work when it is really just time to take off our high heels and go home. For me, with relationships and with parties I always worry that I am going to miss something if I go home too soon. Maybe something spectacular will happen or maybe something will change and if I just stay a little longer I will get to see it. But what I am coming to understand about relationships, at least for me, is that if the thought keeps crossing my mind that the relationship should be over, then the relationship should probably be over. My intuition is telling me that this isn’t something I need to keep going with. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t still scary, but you have to find a way to feel the fear and do it anyway.
A friend once told me how I can tell the difference between fear and intuition. She said that fear is loud and it screams at you, kinda like an internal alarm, like if you say a bear in your living room, but intuition is quiet and subtle. It is a quiet knowing in your spirit, that this isn’t what you want anymore. Kinda like when you and your best friend make eye contact across the room at a party and one of you says “I am ready when you are.” That is intuition! Take some time to get quiet and really listen to what the little voice is saying and if it says “the party is over” do yourself and your heart a favor: go home! There will be other parties and before you know it you will be at the best party ever and you won’t ever want to go home again!
